In the world today, it's hard to not believe, consciously or subconsciously, that we have to fit a certain mold to be lovable. So we judge ourselves, punishing our bodies and mind with rigid diets and exercise, and even harsher words. "I should be more successful in my career, I can't believe I ate three cookies, no wonder I don't have abs, I shouldn't be feeling so much anxiety, if only I was a better partner."

When you notice you're beating yourself up, instead of resisting or judging it, try accepting it with open arms. Give that judgement a big hug. Invite it to a matcha green tea latte. It's okay that the mind has negative thoughts and judgement. It's normal. By accepting that judgement, we gradually dissolve it.